Not the Perfect Blogger.

If my extended hiatus has taught me anything, it's that I am not the perfect blogger.

And I'm ok with that.  

Being a blogger is really hard stuff and there is no such thing as being perfect at it.
And quite frankly, I sorta suck at it.

There.
I said it.

Trust me, I dream about the days where I am able to stay on track. Stay the course. Be like one of those bloggers who never seems to miss a beat no matter what is going on in their lives. Keep the perfect home and fresh flowers on a clean coffee table. Actually finish one of my 56 drafts and have a few waiting in the wings.

but the reality is.... that is just not me.

In real life I am messy, un-organized, thrive in clutter and love to work right up to a deadline. I don't care if dishes go un-washed for a day or three. My clothes never get put away, they live on the tufted couch at the end of our bed. I can never find anything even though I swear I know exactly where it is. I write birthday cards and forget to mail them all the time.
I am sorta a hot mess.

But life is sorta messy.
And sometimes it takes being able to take a step back to revisit and revise to really accept who you truly are.

 I am a non-domestic, monogrammed obsessed, southern blogger who tries really hard to keep it honest and fun. I will not apologize for not blogging or going on hiatus or for letting life get in the way anymore. My blogging ebbs and flows and sometimes I need to just check out for a few. And please believe me when I say that it is not because I don't want to write and get all of your great feedback, it is because I cherish the time on the couch with my husband and pups. I am clearly one that gets easily side tracked and needs to be pulled back down to reality.

I am cool with being a not so perfect blogger.
In fact, I really like it.
It is so me.

But I am back, for real this time.
Maybe not every single day, but definitely back and ready to fill you in on all the happenings that's been going on since my last pathetic post.

Chat with y'all soon!

xoxo,

CAD

Find your Voice.

So, I have to tell y'all...I had a whole other blog post planned for today but I just could not get what was going on in in this little pea head of mine to translate on paper (or blogger). 

So that post will have to wait till another day.

|| headboard || curtains || watch || leggings || similar shirt ||

So instead let's chat about finding your voice.

 your blogging voice. 

and I think I am still finding mine actually. 

Ever since this post and this one too, I truly feel like my writing and voice here on Virginia Sweet has been the most honest and true sense of myself yet. It feels good to not hold back and really use this blog as a platform to be as candid as I choose to be. 

This new found voice is something that I work hard at. I feel silly admitting that to y'all but it is the honest truth. Do y'all know how hard it is to type just like you talk and not hold back? It's scary to put yourself out there to people who only know you through your blog. 

There have been several times here on the blog where I had to put my big girl panties on and just hit the publish button. I was doubting myself. Doubting that I would come across wrong or silly. But the more I put myself out there, the more I learn that this type of exposure is what makes me relatable. 

And if I have learned anything over the last year of blogging, it's that being relatable is one of the most important things. I try to be as genuine as I can and not sugar coat what my reality really looks like.

So here is my advice,

 because clearly I am such an expert, 

find your voice and stay true to who you are. 

write like your talking to your bestie and remember to not over think things.

and that's all for me today.

I promise for more fun and frank convos next week. 

Oh, and I gotta give shoutouts to my fav guest co hosts of Thoughts for Thursday link up, Stephanie at Newlyweds: North and Laura at Happily Ever Parker

xoxo,

CAD 

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