coming clean about the blog

So let's be honest....

 I am just not that into cooking, cleaning and most days anything domestic.

but I can throw one mean party together.

 I am late to everything and procrastinate is my middle name.

but I thrive under pressure.

It takes all I have to throw some bronzer and mascara on most mornings.

but I am also very cool with going sans makeup. 

And if we are being super real this morning, let's not pretend that I am any sort of fashion diva.

but I think some of my outfits totally rock.

So by this point I assume you are asking your self "where is she going with this"

here goes....

Those above truths make me feel like a bad blogger. But I also think it is those truths that make me a good one. Being honest and real is the only way I know how to be truly relate-able.

Lately I have been feeling like this blog has taken on a mind of it's own. It has been posting things that it think it's readers want to read instead of what interests the actual writer. 

So from now on, I am coming clean.

I am going to write about things that interest me and get back to the real reason I started this blog. Virginia Sweet is a place where I can document my life, share my worldly wisdom (or lack there of) and ramble on about my go to recipes or must have fashion pieces.

 I now realize that I cannot commit to blogging every.single.day because it is just not realistic in my life at the current moment. And I am cool with that. I don't want to feel like I have to churn out a blog post just so I have something to post. Where is the fun in that?
too much pressure. 

The real joy that I get from this blog comes from the amazing connections I have made with it's readers. I also love the fact that it serves as a vehicle for my friends and family to keep up with Reid and I. I am surprised every day when people reference my blog in normal conversation. It sends me over the moon that my husband's coworkers are some of my biggest fans. It touches me beyond belief that my parents read my blog every day. It just amazes me that people who I have not seen in years know all about the trips we take or how our crazy pups are getting along. I have you all to thank for this and I do, from the bottom of my heart. 

Oh, and also you probably notice a new look around here. Thought while I was coming clean on the content I would freshen this ole girl up at the same time. Thought she could use a good make over. Now she is all primped, pretty and ready to take on anything...

and so am I.

xoxo,

CAD 

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I won't regret my 30's

So we all know I turned the big 3-0 in August and am currently embarking on yet another decade of my life. A decade that I am genuinely excited about. Partly because I feel like I have some things figured out in this crazy world but mostly because I feel settled, ready to take on anything.

This is a huge paradigm shift from my usual crazy approach to life.  I am a most certainly a worry wort, and if you know me personally you are probably shaking your head up and down with a ridiculous look on your face in complete agreement with that fact. 

I borrowed this pic from Stephanie's blog- it was the only pic I could find that makes me look pensive, like I am thinking about life or something...

When I turned 29, I remember feeling an instant flood of emotions: excitement, fear, peace, nausea, contentment and nervousness... the list could probably go on and on. I was proud of the life I made but nervous at the same time - did I accomplish all that I wanted to, would I have regrets? Would I be crazy not to have regrets?  Will I make a mistake?  Aren't my past mistakes the very reason why I am the person I am today? 

ugh, I need to just shut up. 

I tend let this worry consume me and get all hung up on the weirdest crap. But I am working on that, for realz. 

 I recently came across this article called "11 Things You'll Regret In Your Thirties" and instantly thought it was written specifically for me. 

Read the article... 

go ahead, I will wait.

now, tell me it doesn't ring true? 

This article is something that I find myself reading often because it is the kick in the pants I need. It just really puts things into perspective for me. 

and here is my perspective:

I work really hard everyday at work and give my job the best of me sometimes. I need to give my husband the best of me too. I see my parents on a regular basis but I don't truly spend quality time with them. Sitting on the couch in the same room with them does not count. I care about what other people think even though I really don't want to. The older I get the more this seems to dissipate. Reid and I are taking every opportunity to travel and be semi-newlyweds before we start a family. Speaking of starting a family, this sorta scares the bejesus out of me. I am really proud of where we are in life but can't help but what wonder what the future will bring. I am thankful everyday for my family and friends even though I may not show it. 

It makes me feel really good that I can admit to all of that. This perspective of mine is ever changing and evolving. Some days I might not be able to be as honest or as sappy, it all depends on what mood strikes.

Long story short, I am just putting it out there that I will not regret my 30's. I refuse to look back and say I wish I had done this or that. This "regret" is a frame of mind in my opinion and if you try to make the best of every moment what is there to regret?

I will get off my soap box now because I have a million things to accomplish today. We are headed back up north tomorrow to Boston.....

wish me luck!

xoxo,

CAD

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